Edwin O'Connor

Edwin James "Terry" O'Connor Jr.

Thursday, November 21st, 1940 - Thursday, January 24th, 2019
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Edwin James O’Connor, Jr., known as “Terry”, beloved husband of Mary Lou (Dempsey) O’Connor, departed this life on January 24, 2019 surrounded by his devoted family. Terry was born on November 21, 1940, in Malden, MA, to the late Margaret (Donovan) and Edwin James O’Connor, Sr. He was predeceased by his sister Kathleen M. O’Connor.
Terry moved to Connecticut at the age of 12.He was a 1958 graduate of East Hartford High School and a 1962 graduate of University of Connecticut with a BA in History and Political Science. He was a member of Alpha Sigma Phi Fraternity. Following college, he served in the U.S. Army for two years, stationed in Fort Sill, Oklahoma. Terry had a successful 22-year career at Aetna Life & Casualty, followed by a second career of 18 years with the Connecticut Department of Social Services.
Terry is lovingly remembered for his passionate interest in trains; he spent countless hours in regional rail yards photographing trains. He was an avid reader with a wide range of interests, a witty storyteller, a scholar of Middle Earth, and was knowledgeable and conversant in virtually any subject. Terry enjoyed preparing “garlic pasta”, growing roses, following UCONN Women’s basketball, and college football.
Terry loved spending time in Eastham, MA on the outer cape over many decades, where he enjoyed nature walks and exploring the beauty of the area with his family. His recent interests included watching NCIS and old Westerns, closely following current events, and participating in Powerful Aging at UConn Health. He was dedicated to his family, especially to the care and planning for his daughter with special needs.
Terry is survived by Mary Lou, his wife of 53 years; his son Sean O’Connor and his wife Melissa Wilson of West Hartford; his daughter Ann Margaret O’Connor of West Hartford; his daughter Deirdre O’Connor and her husband Colin Otis of Brooklyn, NY; and his grandchildren Erin and Ryan O’Connor of West Hartford.
The family extends their gratitude to the kind staff of the St. Francis Hospital ICU and Pastoral Care.
Calling hours will be held on Friday, February 1, 2019 from 4-7 pm at Sheehan-Hilborn-Breen Funeral Home, 1084 New Britain Avenue, West Hartford, CT 06110.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Saturday, February 2, 2019 at 10:00 AM at St. Thomas The Apostle Church, 872 Farmington Avenue, West Hartford, CT 06107. Burial will be private.
Donations in memory of Terry can be made to:Harc,900 Asylum Avenue, Hartford, CT06105,an organization supporting individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Online condolences may be made at
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  • Visitation

    Friday, February 1st, 2019 | 4:00pm - 7:00pm
    Friday, February 1st, 2019 4:00pm - 7:00pm
    Sheehan-Hilborn-Breen Funeral Home
    1084 New Britain Avenue
    West Hartford, CT 06110
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  • Service

    Saturday, February 2nd, 2019 | 10:00am
    Saturday, February 2nd, 2019 10:00am
    St. Thomas the Apostle Church
    872 Farmington Avenue
    West Hartford, CT
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Posted at 01:44pm
Respect and appreciation for a kind gentleman. My sympathy to family in your loss.
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Ted Bogucki

Posted at 08:44am
My sincere sympathy
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Posted at 08:06am
Our hearts are broken and we are thinking and praying for all of you. Love Skip, Melissa, and Grace Losey
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Posted at 07:37am
To Mr. O'Connor's Family, may your many family memories bring you comfort to share with each other during this special time. May you also have the peace and comfort offered by our Heavenly Father as promised at Second Corinthians Chapter One verses three and four.

Lynette T. Grande

Posted at 08:26pm
Dear O'Connor Family ~
Please know you are in our prayers as you lean on the promise of God to prepare a place for us when we depart this life. Assuredly, your beloved Terry is peacefully purveying his new residence in paradise. May you all be at peace resting in the love you will always share.
With love,
Lynette Grande and Family

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